How Practicing Self-Celebration Benefit Others
by Valerie Cabadonga
The first thing that catches women’s attention about self-celebration is the word self.
Anything self is automatically perceived as something arrogant, inflated and, most of all, selfish.
To be honest, at the very beginning, I have also thought of that too. I was tossing whether self-love and self-celebration were just all about me, or does it positively affect those around me.
After going through some highs and lows while practicing self-celebration, I am happy to report back to you that celebrating you is not selfish at all. Yes, the people around you positively benefit from this practice too.
When we practice self-celebration, it does two things in other people's’ lives - encourage and empower, and here’s some of the ways how:
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1. Increase confidence.
Have you ever noticed what you feel when you keep hanging out with your confident friend? If your answer is “I feel better,” you totes got that right.
When we celebrate ourselves, we build confidence within us. It is the confidence that you are able and powerful to do the things you set your mind into. You become confident in who you are and the skills that you have to offer. You are confident that the struggles that you are facing is possible to tackle through Christ who lives in you (Philippians 4:13). And this confidence radiates and inspires the people around us to be the same as well.
2. Gain and passing on God’s wisdom.
Practicing self-celebration gives us time to reflect as every moment is seen an opportunity to grow, explore and develop. It’s in these times of reflection that we gain spiritual insights and revelations of our growth in relation to the seasons and challenges that we have gone or going through.
As we learn and apply this wisdom in our lives, not only will others see us as a source of inspiration, but we become a medium in which people witness God’s faithfulness and loving grace. Our stories and testimonies become stepping stones for them to believe in hope and build trust in God who works all things for good (Romans 8:28).
3. More encouraging and constructive language.
Our words have the power to make or break a person (Proverbs 15:4).
When we celebrate ourselves, we become more grateful and appreciative of who we are and our journey. In return, our language changes from demeaning and destructive conversations to encouraging and constructive remarks towards ourselves. When we miss out on something, we start to change our dialogue from “you’re not good at this” to “that’s okay. It’s a learning curve and let’s keep on learning.”
The more we change our internal dialogue, our external conversations change as well. Instead of judgment coming out of our mouths, we communicate what is true, pure, noble, noteworthy and admirable (Philippians 4:8) towards others. We become more appreciative of others, and can easily and genuinely celebrate others of their own journey.
4. Know how to treat others.
When we practice self-celebration, we give ourselves the treatment that we want. The Golden rule in Matthew 7:12 (TPT) states that:
“In everything you do, be careful to treat others in the same way you’d want them to treat you, for that is the essence of all the teachings of the Law and the Prophets.”
If we translate that into simple and modern terms: treat people the way you’d like to be treated. To know the righteous way to treat others with love, joy, peace, patience, kindness and self-control is by practicing how to treat ourselves. How we treat us becomes our benchmark and guideline of how we treat others.
The drop of positivity that we practice within ourselves creates a ripple effect to those around us, leading to better relationships with the lives that we touch.
In this day and age, we have come to a practice where we easily blurt out good things about each other, but give ourselves so much crap for falling short even for just a little bit. And you know what’s wrong with this?
Over time, sooner or later, how you treat yourself catches up on how you treat other people. What derogative and destructive words you have labeled yourself with will be the very words you will describe a person. How you treat yourself says a lot about how you treat others.
Practicing self-celebration is not selfish at all. It’s not arrogant, self-consuming or inflating. But the first step of the many wonderful things that you can do to help and inspire the people around you.
So gal, you go celebrate you!